I’ve been wanting to blog about this all week, but haven’t had the chance. I don’t have the time now either, but I’m sick of working. So here goes.
Earlier this week, a friend sent me a column from the Arizona Republic called “Misery U: Hookup Culture Leaves Casualties.” The author, Dr. Miriam Grossman, takes college health providers to task for creating a culture in which it’s ok for kids to experiment with their sexuality in a relatively protected environment.
If you can get past how badly written the piece is, you’ll see that she is particularly huffy about Go Ask Alice!, Columbia University’s amazing and respected sexual health Q&A website (there’s also a book). Grossman is mad — shocked even — that the Alice website answers college kids’ (and other people’s — anyone can ask a question through the Alice website) questions about sexuality, whether it’s a decision about having sex for the first time, a worry about an STD, a question about masturbation, or a concern about an emotional health issue. Alice is non-judgmental and respects the worries and vulnerabilities of people who pose questions.
And Grossman just can’t stand it. She writes:
OK, hold on a minute. As a health expert, Alice, aren’t you forgetting a few things?
Let’s start with this: These young women who have turned to you are adolescents, and that likely means their cervix is immature and more vulnerable to infection. Surely you’ve studied basic gynecology and know about the transformation zone, where human papillomavirus (HPV) has infected about half of sexually active college women, usually from one of their first encounters. Did you forget that this area shrinks with time, making infection less likely? This fact alone behooves you to urge these women to wait.
Sounds innocuous enough, right? She’s a healthcare provider and she’s worried about high HPV infection rates. Except she wants to treat college-age women, who are somewhere between adolescent and adult, as if they are infants. Oh, and she fails to mention the new vaccine that prevents HPV.
Dr. Grossman goes on like this for several ever more exasperating paragraphs. And then she gets to her main point. Which isn’t really about women’s health at all, or about education women how to prevent STDs. Nope. It’s about the fact that Dr. Grossman actually kinda likes the patriarchal social structures that sex education and the use of contraception can help fight against. Think I’m exaggerating? Take it from the doctor herself:
One freshman whose first “real” boyfriend had just dumped her wanted to know, “Why, Dr. Grossman, do they warn you about STDs and pregnancy, but they don’t tell you what it does to your heart?”
What could I tell her? In my profession, common sense has vanished. It has been replaced by social agendas. The ideology of “anything goes,” “women are just like men,” “abortion is benign,” “sex is a recreational activity” is alive and well in much of campus health and counseling.
Still not sure? Well how about this: just a few paragraphs later, Dr. Grossman further hones her argument. It’s just the women you see who have to wait. Because, as she noted above, she doesn’t think women are like men. It’s ok for boys to explore their sexuality in college, but girls, you better keep your legs crossed.
But wait! There’s more!
A mountain of research highlights the differences between male and female. We once had a few STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), easily treated with antibiotics. Now, we have over a dozen, including some deadly viruses that have no cure. And even research cited by Planned Parenthood, supporting the notion that most women have no long-term emotional consequences from abortions, indicates that two years later, 20 percent felt that termination of their pregnancy had done more harm than good.
I’m so sick of this tactic, which starts with something that sounds fairly commonsense: STDs are bad, we don’t want college kids to get them. From there, there’s the requisite attack on today’s social norms which allow girls to be slutty, er, I mean explore their sexuality before settling down and popping out babies. And the fin de siecle? No good at all can come from healthy sexuality. Only bad. And bad is abortion.
Because, folks, these days the attacks on contraception, comprehensive sex education, and abortion are all tied together. It’s not about being pro-fetal-life. It’s about being pro-women-in-the-kitchen. The false concern for women’s emotional well being Dr. Grossman exhibits here (much like that of the Breast Cancer Prevention Institute) is just a pretext for judging and coercing women.
Dr. Grossman shakes her finger in her column at bloggers who will call her anti-female or right wing. But she doesn’t deny it. Because, let’s face it, she’s sorta proud of it.